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How to Forget by Kate Mulgrew

How to Forget: A Daughter's Memoir

Kate Mulgrew

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Imprint: William Morrow
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc
Publication date: 20 May 2019
ISBN: 9780062846815

"In this profoundly honest and examined memoir about returning to Iowa to care for her ailing parents, the star of Orange Is the New Black and New York Times bestselling author of Born with Teeth takes us on an unexpected journey of loss, betrayal, and the transcendent nature of a daughter's love for her parents"--

4 stars out of 5
7 Aug 2019

"poetic and at times whimsical"

If this sounds like a sad book, it is. It is slow and melancholy. The writing is at times overwrought, saturated with detail. But it is also poetic and at times whimsical. As her primary source, Kate consulted a portfolio of poems and letters her father had written to her mother. This, along with the cover photo, suggests a love story. But if it is a love story, it is a fractured one... So we get the sense, as we read, of things missing, forgotten, unsaid. We might be looking at a kiss, but what we are really seeing is a gap... Did I enjoy the book? There is a scene, towards the end, where Kate and her ill mother convince a neighbour to allow them see inside her house. The place is immaculate: with white carpets, a gleaming utility room, fresh-baked cookies. But when they attempt to peek into one of the bedrooms, the neighbour declines... But in Mulgrew’s book, she shows us all the rooms. We look closely at every dust mite, every toenail. I walked right in and wandered around, touching things. I wanted to keep looking.