"This book is for parents who not only love their children, but want to like them too." In her 20 years as a psychotherapist, Perry has learned about how strong, loving bonds can be forged with children. But it's in the voice of a fellow parent that this compelling book is chiefly written, as Perry—who has a daughter with husband Grayson Perry—explains how the way we were brought up impacts on our own parenting. Of maximum help if read while pregnant, but still an essential read if your children are grown-up.
What Perry’s book does make clear, however, is the huge leaps we have made in our understanding of the psychological conditions necessary to raise reasonably contented human beings. Perry’s approach is rooted in the significant work of clinicians such as John Bowlby, the pioneering expert on attachment theory; Donald Winnicott, author of Babies and Their Mothers; and Joan Raphael-Leff. She emphasises the development of a reciprocal relationship with our children over the imposition of strict and inflexible rules... Perry’s wise and tender advice for the modern parent will surely enlarge and develop the possibilities of the already lucky. But I wonder if for many others it might just act as a wistful window on to a world, and a set of precepts for successful parenting that are forever out of reach. wise and tender advice for the modern parent