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The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)

Philippa Perry

4.00 out of 5

3 reviews

Imprint: Penguin Life
Publisher: Penguin Books Ltd
Publication date: 7 Mar 2019
ISBN: 9780241250990

This refreshing, judgement-free guide will help you to: * Understand how your own upbringing may affect your parenting * Accept that you will make mistakes and learn what you can do about them * Break negative cycles and patterns * Handle your own and your child's feelings * Understand what different behaviours communicate Full of sage and sane advice, this is the book that every parent will want to read and every child will wish their parents had.

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4 stars out of 5
Caroline Sanderson
7 Dec 2018

"Of maximum help if read while pregnant, but still an essential read if your children are grown-up."

"This book is for parents who not only love their children, but want to like them too." In her 20 years as a psychotherapist, Perry has learned about how strong, loving bonds can be forged with children. But it's in the voice of a fellow parent that this compelling book is chiefly written, as Perry—who has a daughter with husband Grayson Perry—explains how the way we were brought up impacts on our own parenting. Of maximum help if read while pregnant, but still an essential read if your children are grown-up.

 

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4 stars out of 5
Aida Edemariam
10 Jul 2019

"It is like a letter from a wise friend who happens to have done years of research"

It is hard to read fast, not just because Perry’s text is punctuated by exercises – unpack the last argument you had, for instance, or write down all your self-critical thoughts for a day – but because it prompts so many realisations, or insights, or clearly names things that have until now existed just beyond one’s awareness. And it provides tools, straightforward and manageable if not always easy, that can be implemented at once. I am grateful for it.

4 stars out of 5
12 Apr 2019

"wise and tender advice for the modern parent"

What Perry’s book does make clear, however, is the huge leaps we have made in our understanding of the psychological conditions necessary to raise reasonably contented human beings. Perry’s approach is rooted in the significant work of clinicians such as John Bowlby, the pioneering expert on attachment theory; Donald Winnicott, author of Babies and Their Mothers; and Joan Raphael-Leff. She emphasises the development of a reciprocal relationship with our children over the imposition of strict and inflexible rules... Perry’s wise and tender advice for the modern parent will surely enlarge and develop the possibilities of the already lucky. But I wonder if for many others it might just act as a wistful window on to a world, and a set of precepts for successful parenting that are forever out of reach. wise and tender advice for the modern parent